Breaking The Mold: Your Image Does Not Define You

working_out_body_imageHey you.

Do whatever you want. Really. Be anything you want to be… Anything. You. Want.

Don’t conform to the image that others perceive you as having, unless you have worked hard to project that certain image, but even then the chances are high that what they perceive and what you perceive are two completely different things. That’s just how it is, no two people can truly think alike, it’s not human nature, so again, just do whatever you want.

For instance, doesn’t it seem so silly that people assume if you have blonde hair, that you must somehow not value knowledge and learning? Or if you grew up overweight, and had bad grades in gym class, that you are destined to forever hate all types of physical activity. Maybe you had a bad gym teacher, maybe you were being bullied at that time in that class, or that your life experiences hadn’t shown you the importance of being healthy yet. Whatever the reason, now you can be whomever you choose to be.

Often others can’t handle this and they don’t know what to do with themselves when they realize you have broken out of the mold they had you in. That is not your problem. Your only task is to be happy, to pursue happiness and be happy with yourself. Simple right?

Lesson’s from my Hair Dresser

A few months ago, I was sitting in my hair dresser’s chair and he told me that he had been doing some construction on his home. My hair dresser is a very sweet man that works magic on thick, coarse hair like mine. He spends all day long talking cut and color, perms and highlights, while going home to his wife and raising his two sons, tending to his vegetable garden, using power tools to build a new addition to his home and watching soccer with a cold beer in hand.


What’s a Winning Workout for Women?

dumbells, heavy lifting, women's workouts, fitness, weight lossSo here it is. It’s so simple it’s going to sound patronizing, but to look like a woman, you need to train like a man… Okay, so that’s pretty much it folks! I think I’m done for today…

Alright, alright, let me explain. There is no particular workout that should be geared specifically for a woman, because any workout geared at men is a winning workout for women.

But then, I’ve heard it so many times before, the popular “I don’t want to look like a man” statement and it’s usually made by women who think that traditionally “masculine” workouts will pile on the muscles. First of all, it is really hard to build muscle. I wish putting on muscle mass was a super easy thing to do for us ladies, but the truth of the matter is that we don’t produce enough Testosterone to do so. Even working out super hard, 6 days a week, on a traditional “man’s” workout (lifting weights, using compound exercises), for a whole year straight, will not give you a manly physique. You might gain some muscle, but that will only help you look more toned, not muscular.

Though, I actually hate that word, “toned”. It is hard to look “toned” if you don’t have a nice base of muscles under your body fat. Many women think that running on a treadmill for endless hours or being a dedicated Cardio bunny will lose the fat on their bodies and reveal a more “toned” look. The problem with that is they haven’t built up the muscle underneath their body fat, so when they lose the fat from doing all that Cardio, they end up losing curves and looking like skin and bones. The body just looks skinny, not toned, if there is no muscle mass to reveal. Just think about Cardio bunny Gwyneth Paltrow as compared to long time resistance trainer Jessica Biel. You can also bet the Cardio bunny has to restrict way more calories, than the Resistance queen (remember my past blogs about muscle burning more calories even at rest?).